"You need to harden up."
"Tough people last, tough times don't."
"Sometimes you just have to dig it in and things will get better."
"What doesn't kill you makes you...."
These sayings are no longer valid, more so for those under the age of 35. Our world has changed significantly in the last decade and we humans have also changed.
Forcing someone to do something in today's world no longer gets the best out of people. Quite the opposite in most cases. Yelling at people or forcing them to do something against their will produces a negative effect by making them feel demeaned and inferior.
So how do we get the best out of people, how do we encourage people to pick themselves up when they are struggling with their mind health? We can get people to connect with others so that we can encourage each other. And, more importantly, we can encourage people to connect with themselves.
We all have an inner strength, something that keeps us going when life gets on top of us. Encouraging those who are struggling to find their true inner strength, a strength that lies dormant in all of us, one that we can only find and know the real value of when we truly connect with it.
How do you encourage people to use their natural fear to do better? By showing them the value of their true inner strength, their true self. Not by yelling at them or forcing them, but by sharing knowledge. knowledge of the mind, knowledge of the positive aspects of psychology, and understanding of our emotions.
Forcing people to do something will only cause distress. You can tell someone who is behaving badly to leave, or you can ask them when is a good time for them to come back. Which do you think works best in today's world? If you are thinking the former, examine if it is truly working or is it because they fear, you.
The age of knowledge and understanding through connecting with others is upon us as it once was. Work with it, not against it if you want to survive.
You Need To Harden Up - Not At All!