Frequently bullied workers are at least 10 times more likely to face job burnout, anxiety, or depression.
Here is what you should do if you are being bullied, regardless of the reason;
🙅 Never confront it at the time - if you confront a bully at the time of the incident it often won't end well. When emotions are heightened we become defensive and find it difficult to discuss things rationally. Instead, write down what occurred, what was said and how you felt.
🙋♂️ Talk with someone - ask a trusted colleague or friend what they think about your situation, to bring perspective. If the colleague or friend believes you are being bullied, you must take action to bring it to the bully’s attention.
🤔 Can you do it - I'm a firm believer that you, the one being bullied, should talk with the bully in the first instance. This shows that you have strength and will not tolerate bullying.
🗣️ Meet with the bully the following day and remind them of what occurred, tell them how it affected you, and ask them if they thought what they did to you was appropriate had it happened to them. If they react negatively, warn them that next time it happens you won't wait a day, you will bring it to their attention at the time.
🤝 If you can't do it - if you feel that you cannot talk with the bully, have a colleague, support person, or have a union delegate with you or to talk for you on your behalf.
Employment courts generally take the approach of - was it brought to the person's attention at the earliest opportunity and at the lowest possible level - hence the need to take a measured approach.
1️⃣ One chance is enough - if the bullying behaviour occurs again, bring it to the bully's attention immediately. If they do not accept what they have done as inappropriate, it's time to step it up.
💡 Seek skilled help - if the behaviour continues, it's now time to go outside of the organisation and seek employment expertise. Unions are a good start, or an employment advocate/lawyer.
The bully MUST be held to account - ignoring behaviour does not change it. Doing nothing is tantamount to acceptance and in some instances, may be viewed as an endorsement. If we see someone being bullied, it is incumbent upon us to also take action.
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